LOVE WHEN YOU STILL CAN
People say these things all the time and I can say perhaps it’s just a random post for some of us or words from some motivational speaker, something that’s cliché or simply “not that deep”, but truth be told, these words should be something that we actually take seriously and practice without second thoughts. There are so many things that can draw bonds apart but there is none that can be more real, more irreversible than DEATH. Oh yes! That was a sad one! You are probably tired of hearing it not until you start preaching or actually experience it, but all things considered, it’s too a big risk to wait till the pain of losing someone stings to wake up to the reality that life is unforeseeable and every second is more precious than the last. Tell the people you love how you feel about them every single minute when you still can. Tell them how beautiful they are, tell them how grateful you are . How you would love to spend each second of your life around them. It is not worth telling them this when they are already gone, because even if they could indeed hear you from the other side, what’s the point in professing love they never got to see or feel when they were here? I know it’s easy to assume that how you feel about people should be so obvious to them because of the kind of relationship you have with them but this can only count as a weak speculation because if you never say it out loud, chances are that they’ll never really know. Yes, yes, actions definitely speak louder than words but actions alone can’t balance the equation. It is very important for them to hear those words from you, everyone deserves and needs affirmation, even the people that seem to be “hard hearted”- the “I don’t do emotions” type of people also feel these things, it’s only human to feel that need.
Life is very unpredictable but this is a reality we can’t escape. What we can do to save ourselves from questions and regret is to love each day as it comes. Love like it's the last time you have with your people. Get out of your comfort zone and confidence of there is tomorrow. Tell that friend, brother, sister, mother, father, girlfriend, boyfriend, child, workmate etc how they make you feel or how special they are to you. Better late than never, right? So, why not?. Regrets are more real than you could ever imagine. This is not to guilt trip or make you feel bad or even scare you but to remind you that tomorrow is unknown and a minute of expressing love doesn't hurt, it has never killed anyone. Don't wait too long to pour out your heart. Do it now. Give them those flowers and gifts. Love when you still can. We don’t have the luxury of taking the phrase “life is short” for granted. I would give anything to let the people I have lost know how I actually felt about them. Live, love , love, live. Do it when you still can. I will repeatedly say it. Above all, let's learn to also forgive those that are dear to us because it will be easier to love them better then. Love loudly, it will never be a crime anywhere.
BY NANKYA JOSEPHINE